We are often asked what are the best words to say to a mother walking into an abortion facility? It’s often a heart-felt greeting or a welcoming smile that catches their attention and draws them to you. This past Friday, as a young mother began her walk into the abortion facility, she noticed one of our sidewalk advocates offering her information about local resources. With some hesitation, she took this information and as he handed it to her he told her that Jesus loves her and her little baby. She continued walking to the entrance of the abortion facility. As she was being told by the security guards that her cell phone was not allowed in the building, another sidewalk advocate greeted her with a welcoming smile and a gentle invitation to speak with him. She waved back and smiled. This sidewalk advocate once again smiled, waved, and encouraged her to speak with him and she did!
As she approached the sidewalk advocate, he introduced himself to her. She said her name as well. The sidewalk advocate then proceeded to ask her if she was at the facility for a follow-up or for a procedure. She stated that she was there to have an abortion, but she she really did not know what she was going to do yet. She was trying to figure things out. Through conversation the sidewalk advocate learned that she had an ultrasound in the abortion facility was to be 9 weeks along. The conversation continued and she mentioned that she had a two year old daughter, a job, and that she was not married but had a boyfriend. She said that no one knew she was there and if her boyfriend knew that she was pregnant, he would not want her to go to the abortion facility. The discussion continued and the fact that her boyfriend would not want the abortion was focused on as a positive that perhaps she could consider talking to him and perhaps he would be supportive of her and the baby. If this were not the case the sidewalk advocate mentioned that there is support all over our community to help her, beginning with the wonderful pregnancy resource centers in our area. These centers, can not only assist at no cost, with diapers, formula, counseling, and assistance but would even help her with any needs she may have for clothing, toys, etc., for her two year old daughter. We offered to set up an appointment with a local pregnancy resource center and go there with her. She seemed interested, but unwilling to commit. We asked if she was a person of faith, and this was a turning point. (For most this is a point that women don’t want to touch on) however, for this woman this was a turning point. When asked if she had a faith background, she said YES, and this is why I am still not sure if I should do this or not. A true sign that prayer, the mercy of God, and our presence as a sign of Christ’s love was working in this woman’s heart. We talked about how the evil one, the deceiver wants her to be hurt and wants her baby to be hurt and that God wants life for them both. As she was open to prayer, we asked if she would like to pray with us. Five of us held hands with her and one sidewalk advocate began to pray over her. The mother began to cry, especially when we prayed that she would know that regardless of how her family might negatively react to her baby, she might know that she has the love and support of a family in Christ that is here right now for her and will continue to be here for her for life. We talked about the beautiful baby showers that we hold for moms, and asked if we could hold one for her. She was excited to hear this and smiled. We exchanged telephone numbers with her and told her that we love her and that we do not want to see her hurt. She then said she needed to get her money back and walked into the abortion facility again. The sidewalk advocates, encouraged her to stay strong and that we would be praying with her as she re-entered the building. Over two hours passed, because the abortion facility made her wait until all other clients were seen, she finally emerged from the abortion facility with her money back and most importantly with her baby still alive! However, she was left with one more hurdle before she was able to leave the abortion facility parking lot. Her car would not start. One of the sidewalk advocates who had originally talked to her upon arriving offered his booster cables which the security guards used to charge her battery. This provided an excellent opportunity for the security guards to witness our kindness to them and the mothers we serve.
As the mother we helped returned the booster cables, she thanked the sidewalk advocate. She then headed away from the abortion facility in Pensacola. On Friday in Pensacola, love, mercy, gentleness, and kindness touched this mother’s heart. To be a sidewalk advocate, you don’t need to have a memorized statement, you just need to come with love. You just need to be willing to love these mothers right where they are at, to cry with them, to let them know that they are not alone, and let them know that THERE IS HOPE.
Please continue to pray for this mother and us as we continue to help her! If you are interested in becoming a sidewalk advocate, please e-mail the Emerald Coast Coalition for Life at http://[email protected]